Monday, March 5, 2012

Corinne's Good Deed Dare

Lately I have been impressed to write what I will call my "Good Deed Dare." Basically what that is, is the code I attempt to live my life by on a daily basis. It is NOT easy, and it requires sacrifices, but I promise you it is worth it. My "daily deeds" have become almost a natural high for me. The second I do the good deed, I get a rush of adrenaline and I feel so good about the universe. I warn you that these dailydeeds may become addicting. You wont always see their sweetest points come to fruition, but you will know you have set something amazing in motion. I challenge you, to do one good deed per day, even if it is small and slight. It will start a chain reaction that will snowball some infinite number of connections down the line that you may never see, but will know of its possibility. That brief connection, where you're tree of life, touches branches with someone else's, will light you up. Take joy in that tiny moment when your two lives meet, and good is done.

I have provided below some ideas of daily deeds you could do. Some are small commitments, some are big ones. Choose the ones you feel you can apply yourself to, and go into the world spreading joy. :)This is a CHALLENGE. It will not be easy, but please, I urge you to try it.

Day 1:Smile and make eye contact
So often these days, when we are standing in line at the grocery store, or walking down a long corridor, we retreat into our technology. I sat at a Toyota repair shop with three other people, not a single one of them said hello, or even looked up from their phones. When you walk along the street, put your phone away. Your emails and notifications will still be there when you pick it up later. Enjoy the human contact around you. Smile at strangers. Say "Good Morning." It might make their day.

Day 2: Pay it forward (literally)
Sometimes when I am in a drive thru line, I will pay for the person behind me's order. If you are in line at a Starbucks, or a taco bell, or Wendy's, take a moment to pay for the person behind you. I never see the look on their face as I have already driven away, but it makes my heart race and fills me with joy thinking about how it might have made their morning a little better.

Day 3: Say "I love you"
Send a message, short or long, to a family member you may not have spoken to in a while. Let them know that you love them, or even just ask how they are doing. (BE WILLING TO LISTEN.) Their first response may be reflex. "Oh I'm fine." Stay interested. You never know what may be waiting to lean on you.

Day 4: Volunteer
Find a local charity that you can be passionate about and find ways that you can give back or serve. I have volunteered for a charity called "The Grateful Garment." They are a charity that provides clothes, and comfortable environments to victims of Rape and Sexual assault reporting their crime at Police Stations. I took some time to fold and sort through donated clothes. See how you can help out in your own community.
http://gratefulgarment.org/

Day 5: Local Police and Fire
Whether you are Liberal or Conservative, support our country's judicial system or not, our Police and Fire don't care. They will save you regardless of what you say about them or to them. Their job is to serve and protect us ALL. I have taken the time to bring Cookies, Pies, and Dinner to my local Police and Fire stations. If this is something you would like to do, please call the station ahead of time to be sure one of their Firefighters has not already planned a meal. In some cities it is technically not allowed as it is a "gift to the city". But there are ways around it. Like show up with food. ;)

Day 6: Pray for strangers
Whether you believe in the power of prayer or not, it cannot be denied that a single positive thought can do good. Whether through prayer or just in kind thoughts, good can be done without words. Noetic Science has done many studies on the measurable physical evidence of Human Thought, and the atomic weight of it. Its very interesting. Either way, take a moment when you see someone unhappy or in pain to focus positive thought and energy on that person. I promise it will affect them.

Day7: Spend and Entire day in Good Language
The words we use set the tone for our souls. If I spent the morning grumbling to my son in his crib, and then grumbling to my students, that rythum of sour energy gets passed along. Spend the day saying only words of encouragement, even if you are not too encouraged yourself. Tell your Husband he looks very handsome this morning, or praise your daughter for putting her shoes away without complaining. Raise those around you up.

Day 8: Do your Spouse's chore
Jason's chores in our home are, Trash, Dishes, and Bottle prep. Every now and then we switch a few chores. Or I will do the dishes if I see them getting piled, or because I want to spend time with him after dinner so I do the dishes earlier. Its a small gesture that will go a long way in a peaceful cooperative home.

Day 9: Adopt a Military Service Man or Woman
No Marine, Soldier, Airman, Sailor, or Coastie ever deserves to go through a Deployment without support from someone. I have adopted two Marines who are currently deployed that I send packages and letters to. This requires a big commitment on your part, but if you are willing...here is the site you can sign up through. It allows you to request your preferred Military Branch, and whether you would like to write to a Man, Woman, or entire Family, or Unit.
http://www.adoptahero.us/adoptamarine.htm

Day 10: Meet your Neighbors
I live in apartment complex, so for me this means meeting at least 12 people who live in my building. But that's great!! I had left over birthday cake from Hunter's 1st Birthday so I used that as an excuse to meet and say hi to my neighbors. I took a slice of cake to each neighbor and introduced myself. It is a great way to help your neighbors and community feel a little more united and together.

I urge you to come up with more ideas yourself. Burn a CD for a friend of songs that remind you of them, Bring a meal to a friend in need, or whisper a silent prayer for someone in need of strength. Its time this world started thinking a little more outside of the self. This is my challenge! Are you up for it?

Corinne Oestreich

Friday, February 17, 2012

Crock Pot Shredded Chicken

I am going to share a few of my favorite recipes here on my blog for a while...

Crock Pot Shredded Chicken (Takes 5 Mins to prepare)

This is perfect if you have NO time to make dinner and you have to run bc you are late for church. ;)

Items you need:
5 Breasts Boneless Skinless Chicken
Swanson's Chicken Broth/ or water mixed with chicken bullion
Garlic Herb Seasoning
1/2 Cup chopped onions or Dehydrated Onions
3 Garlic Cloves

Lay the Chicken Breasts flat on the crock pot and turn it on High.
Pour the chicken broth so it almost covers the top of the chicken making them look like chicken islands.
Sprinkle the garlic and herb spices over the chicken. (If you don't have garlic herb spice, use crushed basil, a bay leaf, some oregano, and a little salt and up the Garlic from 3 cloves to 5 minced)
Sprinkle your onions over the chicken and cover the crock pot for 4-5 hours. (Check to make sure you dont need to add chicken broth at about 4 hours.)

About 20 mins before serving, use two forks and shred the chicken. Enjoy!

I like to use the left over shredded chicken sprinkled over a salad for lunch, or toss it in some macaroni and cheese the next night for dinner and bake it covered with bread crumbs! Yummy!

Saturday, January 28, 2012

What has happened to marriage??

To start off.. I am a member of an online community for mothers and expectant mothers. I have been spending a lot of time on the "Trying to Conceive" board. Its a nice way to talk to other women who plan on having more children. Spending so much time on that board, I saw a very upsetting trend. Many of the posts were from women trying to get pregnant with their boyfriends. They would say things like "My bf and I have been trying to get pregnant for 4 months.." or "I think I am finally pregnant, can't wait to tell my bf!" So I posted a thread on the site titled "Trying to conceive with boyfriend?? Confused." and here is how it went....


By: MrsOstrike
Member since Dec 18, 2011
Posted: Jan 27, 2012
I am not trying to hate or be unkind with this post. I am simply confused. I dont understand why so many people are actively trying to have a baby and are not married? Some people would argue "its just a piece of paper..so what" I would argue, its not a puece of paper, its a symbol of eternal commitment, and if u cannot commit to each other for eternity, how can we believe that the home you will raise this gift in will be stable? Polital and religious views aside, the home you will be bringing your child into is one of mild commitment. Yes married households can be unstable and unhappy as well, but I am not trying to say its perfect. To me, it is setting your child up for garunteed insecurities. That is simply my opinion and I am so confused why marriage and family seem to be loosing its value in these latter days.

Here are some of the responses I got...

"i think some people just dont see the point anymore. you have to pay money for a paper that says your together. but they also need to think about the future [sp] when you so passes the next of kin will get money and all his stuff well if your not married that all goes to brothers and sisters (or parents) of theres. you want get as much back on taxes... just stuff like that. idk i got married last year and it really didnt change anything for me i just paid 6,000 bucks for a shiny pice of paper... not my smartest move. but i loved my wedding so i guess its okay. lols"

"i agree that marriage in itself doesn't mean much anymore. its a personal choice and has no bearing on ones level of commitment to another. honestly, its pretty much a joke these days."

the responses go on and on.. So this is what I wrote in response to their comments...


MrsOstrike

By: MrsOstrike
Member since Dec 18, 2011
Posted: about 17 hours ago
I knew a lot of people would post and disagree with that I wrote. I want to add again...since I already wrote this but I guess people missed this...that I am not judging whether or not u are a good parent as a single mom..i know a lot of women who have raised children on their own..and I am not attacking those who choose to not be married. I do think it is sad that marriage has become something people bash and avoid. I fully love and support the women on this site of all backgrounds and races, religions and family situations bc we are all sisters rejoicing in the gift of our children. But I will always feel saddened at the thought of couples who refuse to commit to each other. I just felt like having a discussion. And again...yes, we are all here for support. :)

the responses continue...

"Me and my bf have been together almost 7 years and we are ttc, we do plan to Marry in the future but we just don't feel it's a "must" before we have children. And we would rather spend our money on other important things right now. If two people love one another and they are good people, they can bring up there children just as well as a married couple can. My mum and dad got a divorce wen I was 9 after being together for 20 yrs. watching them go through a divorce was horrific and heart breaking. And I would never want my children to hav to go through wat I went through.sometimes marraige doesnt turn out all that great yano, In my eyes it's just a piece of paper, me and my bf don't need a piece of paper to say we're in love. That's just my take on it :)"

"Not something that keeps me up at night to be honest! If i see a family having a great time ... Lets say down the park.... My first instinct is to smile and think.. Nice! I dont find myself standing there thinking, 'well they look happy! But i bloody hope they're married otherwise they're setting those kids up for some major insecurities!' i'm 27, have a daughter with my boyfriend (i clearly have no morals) of 10 years and we're planning number 2 with no intensions of getting married yet (shame on us!) own our own house, gots jobs yadayadayada etc! How d'you like them apples ;)"

"My child isn't going to ask "mommy why aren't you an daddy married" why is that? Because there is not a empty square on my wall where my marriage certificate is suppose to be.My child is going to see a committed relationship and their parents loving them and each other till they are old and gray.So why would they even think to ask?That was just hilarious to me...like there are mind reading baby geniuses out there who are just going to "feel" like there parents aren't married and feel the need to ask that question.My kids are going to look in photos albums with me an I am going to tell the story on how we met and all the adventures we had together.Pics of them when they where in Mommy's tummy and daddy was kissing her belly and when they were born and daddy is holding them.Setting my children up for insecurities.....right...marrying my DF(their daddy) because that was the only way I will know he will stay committed.That would be setting them up for insecurities....So even if they do grow up and we still arent married...They will be seeing the commitment...They are going to know I didnt make him stay with a ring/certficate...he stayed because he was devoted and committed to their mommy and our family.he chose to stay all the years of our life because he loved us."

After a loooong list of increasingly rude and ignorant responses I wrote this...

"I dont think a lot of you read my continued responses on this subject. I didnt want to offend, I was honestly curious, but I am not going to apologise for my opinion. I am a firm believer in the joy and covenant of marriage. I think it is irresponsible to bring a child into an unmarried relationship where u refuse to commit both legally and emotionally to each other, just as I think it is irresponsible to bring a child into an unhealthy marriage. I am not saying this to add fuel to a LOT of your fires, its obvious that a lot of u are defencive to your situations and maybe that bc there is some element of guilt there. But I am hoping you can all relax..on both sides, and know that I send u all my love and that I hope the children we do bring into this world know of our love for them above all else. I think we can all agree that is most important."

Now my final say... Marriage is ordained of GOD. There are no written statistics about how many men leave their gf's bc honestly that number would be astronomical compared to the 41% divorce rate. I hold to my opinion that marriage is a very Holy and beautiful thing. People who refuse to get married simply for the sake of making some statement make me physically upset...it IS setting your children up for insecurities and it will ultimately hurt your self esteem in the long run. Why wouldnt he want to commit to me for eternity? Why not make that commitment public and before God? I am soo sad at the apparent growing numbers of our generation who refuse to get married, or who even conciously bring children into that relationship. I'm not talking about women who become pregnant and deal with the situation as it comes, I'm talking about couples who TRY to get pregnant, fully aware that they are bringing a child into an unstable family. I knew my post would upset some people but I had NO idea it would get 84 replies...75 of which are against marriage. I was so sad to see that...Just had to voice my opinion.

Sunday, November 27, 2011

Making Friends

I don't know why I am having a hard time making friends being back in Sunnyvale. My entire life, I have always been the outgoing child. I made friends at our camp sites, parks, first days of school. Even my teacher's comments to my parents were that I was "very social'. For some reason, I am having a very hard time connecting with fellow women. When Jason and I were living in 29 Palms on the Marine Corps Base..I had MANY good friends. Lisa, Lori, Mary, Rachel, Reshea, Alicia, Brittany, Whitney, Jamie, and other neighbors that I actually wanted to hang out with. A few of these ladies I even opened up about some serious feelings with. I MISS that.. Yes I talk to my husband about my feelings, but there is nothing like a fellow woman to talk about womanly emotional things to. I want a best friend again. I have had some close friends though out the years. Middle school best friends Brandi and Vanessa and Nicole... my High school best friends, Amanda, Crystal, Maria and Loretta...and my LA best friends Heather and Katarina and Noreen... But we have all gone our separate ways and I MISS having someone that close.

I have met some women at church and they are wonderful! But I am going to be extremely open and honest when I say that I am not connecting with them because I am jealous of them. Its something I am working on with myself. I am jealous of the fact that they are married to their husbands in the Temple, that they have the Priesthood in their home, that they can go to their Husbands with Spiritual crisis..and I cant do that. I cant go to the Temple with my husband and enjoy the amazing experience of it all with him and that makes it hard for me to enjoy the Temple sometimes..makes it hard to be at church sometimes. But I go. I bring Hunter with me every Sunday and we sit with the Butlers, and I keep thinking to myself, this is only going to get harder when I have more children. Bringing two small children to church by myself wont be easy...but it will be worth it, and I keep reminding myself what I am doing for their spiritual futures. The jealousy thing is just going to have to be something I work on. I have to remember that LDS couples have issues too.. They aren't perfect. No one is.

Maybe waiting for the right Best Friend is like waiting for the right Husband. God will put them in my life in His time.




Tuesday, September 6, 2011

Hunter Bear


Well its certainly been a while since I posted on here. Hunter is now 6 months and 16 days. :) Its hard to believe how fast time is going!! He is sitting up, reaching for toys, and people and babbling away. He has made lunges to crawl, although he hasn't quite gotten the knee and feet movement down yet. I am LOVING being a mother. It is truly a God given blessing and my calling in life. I feel more complete now..although i know Heavenly Father has more children in store for us down the road. Its a little scary sometimes how dependent Hunter is on me, but at the same time I am elated with the responsibility. Jason has proven himself an amazing father. I love watching him with Hunter. He is the only one who can get Hunter to belly laugh as soon as he walks in the door. Hunter adores his daddy, but its mommy who brings the comfort in the evenings as he gets tired. He reaches for me and then snuggles in for the night. I love it.



Well Jason has been working for Bloom Energy as a Welder. He's doing TIG welding and he really enjoys it. He is almost off of his probationary period when he will start getting his welder's pay. THAT will be nice. We will have a much more comfortable budget at that point. I am teaching Reading at Bishop Elementary School in Sunnyvale and I can't believe I am getting paid to have so much fun! I love my job. I only have to work 2 hours a day and then I can come home and be with Hunter for the rest of the day. Its perfect.


Lately I have been complaining a lot about things in my life being "up in the air." There was a time recently that Jason seriously considered and even tried to re-enlist into the Marine Corps. I have NO problems with that at all, in fact our lives would be a lot more secure if he did, but the most important thing to me is that HE is happy doing whatever it is he decides. After the loss of a dear friend's husband who was Jason's Staff Sergeant.. the motivation ot get back in and go over there was strong. But time and time again Jason would think about how hard it would be to leave Hunter and I. How dangerous it is over there and those emotions battled with his desire to be with his men. For now, he will remain at Bloom Energy and I at Bishop. We are looking at apartments in the area to rent, and save some money to buy a house. I think Jason's drive to get back in the Marine Corps will have strong moments and not so strong moments. I know he misses 3/4 and the guys who were in it with him at that time.. I know if he went back now, it would be different. We shall see. For now, we are enjoying Sunnyvale CA and our family here around us. We plan on flying back to MN for Thanksgiving to see Jason's family and I honestly can't wait!!! I miss them all so much. Especially all my nieces and nephews. :(

Sunday, February 6, 2011

Saturday, February 5, 2011

The Home Stretch..

Well here I am at 36 weeks and 5 days. Technically I will be full term this Tuesday, but I highly DOUBT Hunter will come that early. I just need him to hang in there until Feb 21st or so. Once my mom has safely landed in Minneapolis he is more than welcome to head into the world. Haha..get it? HEAD into the world. Sorry.. really awful pun.

So the closer I get to labor, and the more intense these Braxton Hicks get, the more I'm thinking about my "Birth Plan". I didnt even know I was supposed to have one until I started reading all these books about women giving birth and sticking to their "Birth Plan." I was pretty sure Birth was the one thing you COULDN'T plan honestly. I guess its called that in order to give us freaked out moms a sense of control over our situation. So my "Birth Plan" is as follows...

  • Go to the Hospital
  • Avoid Pitocin at all costs
  • Lots of walking and sitting in the bath
  • Really hoping to go natural, but not leaving the option of an Epidural out.
  • Planning on having only Jason and my Mama and Steve in the room when I am in transitional labor.
So thats the "plan." We'll see how well my body decides to follow it. We already have the crib set up, the clothes are washed, the car seat is in the truck. We're pretty much good to go. I have one more baby shower on the 19th here in MN. I am so excited for it! My sister in laws are throwing it for me. It was seriously so sweet of them to offer to throw it for me.  A lot of the women from Relief Society are going to be there. I get a final count tomorrow at church so I can tell my sister how many to expect. I'm going to post pictures of Hunter's Nursery tomorrow. :) Better go to bed if I want to be up in time for Sacrament Meeting. Night all!

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